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When I self-diagnosed myself as an over-doer!

I’m not saying I love personality tests, but working in the corporate world means you take them—a lot of them. Over the years, these tests have told me I’m a Type A personality, an achiever, administrator, merchant, futuristic thinker, and dominating influencer. 

All those ‘personality titles’ tell me the same thing: I am a doer!

It’s not that being a doer is a bad thing. Every boss I ever had loved that about me. But, I’m sorry God, I wish I was a little more like the Type B’s of this world—those wonderful, laid back people who are always wondering why I’m always in a rush.

I wanted to slow down. But I didn’t.

You see, I was was the queen at saying “yes” to just about anything—and that news spread quickly! Before I knew it, my calendar was filled to the brim because I’d say “yes” to this opportunity, and “yes” to that project. 

Even when I self-diagnosed myself as an over-doer, I pressed forward, telling myself, “If I try harder…”, “If I got a little more organized…” or “If I get a little earlier every day…” I’d be able to fit it all in!”

I hated to say, “no” no matter what the ask was but my continual “yes” left me overwhelmed, exhausted, and stressed to the max. 

All brought on by who?

ME!

Even if God wired me a doer, I have the ability to control my “yes’” and “no’s” in my life. 

Thankfully, I’ve learned to use that two-letter word “no” more often. Not because it’s enjoyable to say, but because I’ve realized that when I say “no” to one thing I’m making room to say “yes” to other things. “Yes!” to the items on God’s list instead of my own!

If the asker who asks me to do a project, teach a class or watch their dog does not line up with my year’s top three goals, I say “no.” I often tell the asker I made a promise to myself and God that if the ask did not line up with my top three goals, I had to say “no”. I cannot tell you how many times I’ve said this over the last two years. The response I almost always get? The asker respects my devotion and dedication to the things God is calling me to do and I, thankfully, am not left in a heap of shame.

What are your top three goals for the next year? What kinds of things do you need to say “no” to in order to say “yes” to God?

Remember, we were not created to be Superwoman. Jesus came to give us abundant life and although that includes productivity, we need to keep room for rest, peace, and joy.